No, Your Kids Won’t Grow Up to Hate You if You Do What You Want Sometimes

Arianna Bradford
5 min readFeb 2, 2021
Photo by Jason Rosewell on Unsplash

Far be it from me to ever pretend that I have all of the answers. Just like anyone else I think, I’m finding that every move, every thought, every planned Pinterest activity comes with a reminder of just how little I know about parenting in general.

That being said, I think I can say with absolute certainty, that some of you aren’t giving your children — or yourself — enough credit.

But let’s back up a second. This article comes on the tail of some fallout I received over a tweet I posted. It went a little something like this:

Yes, that’s me as Voldemort. Please focus.

I tweeted this because, as you’ve probably surmised, I do not like to play pretend with my children. It always devolves into them telling me I’m not doing it right and me thinking about how many games I could be playing on my phone before we amiably part ways until snack time. I don’t find pretend play interesting or easy to follow, and they don’t find me to be a good play buddy.

According to the narrative we’ve swallowed, this means I’m a terrible mother. You know how I know? The internet let me know.

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