I'm not a good toddler mom, either, and it feels like you're a monster for it. You're not though. Every parent has an age or a phase they don't do well with, and it DOES get better. Remind yourself that it's normal to not like your kids sometimes, take a deep breath, and then do what you can to relieve the feeling, even if it's just disappearing into a closet to cry. They really aren't toddlers forever (though it feels like it), and now that my oldest is 6 I'm able to breathe again. It'll happen for you, too. I promise. Hang in there, both the original author and anyone else who's reading this.